Journal #3 AND WOULD YOU TALK TO YOUR FRIEND LIKE THAT?

Oh Hey Doll....

Some things we say to ourselves 

we would NEVER say to our friends, 

SO WHY DO WE DO IT TO OURSELVES.

I've been inspired and NEED to write 

about this.

We talk negatively to and about ourselves 

ALL the time. Most of the time we don't even 

realise and that's when it affects us the most.

- Every time you look it the mirror and point 

out something you don't like about yourself 

- Every time you tell your friends what you don't

like about yourself

- Every time you look at Instagram and compare 

yourself to the person that has put up the best 

image of themselves

What we talk about, what we tell ourselves it what 

we start to believe. GET IT! but.... would you say 

that to your friend 

- I wish you was skinner..

- I wish you had clearer skin..

- I wish you had better hair..

- I wish you was shorter...

After hearing girls around me talk to

themselves and about themselves 

like SH*T. IT HAS TO STOP. 

Our words to ourselves have enormous 

power on our everyday life, the people around 

us and the experiences we have. 

I KNOW I'VE BEEN THERE.

I've been through the big the bad and the ugly of 

having judgements of myself, all day everyday.

It's caused a lot of damage to my personality,

my relationships and my overall enjoyment of life.

I now make a huge effort to make sure the 

words I tell myself are KIND, and if I do get 

into a state of mind of being nasty to 

myself, I notice it and switch it.

HOW DID I GET TO THIS POINT

Oh, it's far from easy and takes a lot of time 

but getting to the stage of accepting yourself for who

you are, putting a stop chasing what you think you 

should be, and constantly wanting to look and be like 

someone else, you will be so much happier. 

I was recommended a book, and from that day 

on it was a journey to falling in love with myself.

(The book that started my self love journey)

After reading the above book it spiralled

and I began to make this my priority!

See tools below that helped me then and

continues to support me now.

- 'Style Your Mind Cara Awill Leyba' - a podcast

that I continue to listen to and refer back to when

I need it

- 'Girl Code Cara Awill Leyba' - an audiobook following

on from 'Sparkle')

- Affirmations on the my mirror - I would add post 

it notes on my mirror. Everything that I didn't like 

about myself, I would switch it up to a positive and 

say them to myself every morning. There was 

around 20 at one point but this was one of 

the most powerful practices. 

- Meditation - getting into a regular meditation 

routine allows me to live more presently and 

notice the ANT'S(Automatic Negative Thoughts), 

so I can acknowledge them and release them and 

switch them up.

ANT'S (example)

-  I wish my skin would just clear up

(Switch To)

- There is nothing I can change in this 

moment, my skin doesn't define me.

- I wish I was skinner

(Switch To)

There is nothing I can change in this 

moment, my weight doesn't define me.

- Journaling - When I feel a wave of negative talk

I grab my journal or use my notes on my phone. I 

start with the thought that I noticed and keep asking 

myself WHY? (example below)

I don't like what I see in the mirror today 

WHY?

I just look dull

WHY?

I am tired and not been eating right 

WHY?

I have been so busy and not had the time

to focus on that

WHY?

I making to many plans 

WHY? 

I have FOMO

What can I do about it?

Clear out a few days in the diary for myself 

give myself more love and self care.

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